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You keep secrets from each other; you keep secrets from yourselves. Secrets bond you; secrets drive you apart. Keeping a secret can be a burden, or it can delight you. For children, learning to keep secrets is a vital developmental milestone. In one studyresearchers asked kids who were three, four, and five to play hide-and-seek and to keep a secret about a surprise. At three, the kids were fairly hopeless at these tasks; by five, most of them could keep a secret, and had the cognitive development to match. For adults, this is expected behavior. Yet across ages and culturesmultiple studies show the personal health benefits of sharing your private hopes and fears with trusted confidantes — and the corresponding detriment of keeping some secrets entirely to yourself.
Which secrets should you not be entirely alone with? Secrets motivated by shame. The research is clear: shame is highly correlated with addiction, depression and violence. Just being listened to by a kind and empathetic stranger can sometimes provide relief, says suicide prevention counselor Kevin Briggs TED Talk: The bridge between suicide and life.
A decade ago, Frank Warren TED Talk: Half a million secrets founded an ongoing community art project that transformed his own secrets, in addition to many others. His project, called PostSecretis a curated compendium of never-before-shared secrets, artistically rendered on postcards and mailed to him by anonymous strangers.
Sinceover a million people have mailed Warren postcards with their secrets written and often depicted on the back; he keeps them in an ever-growing pile in his house. Over a million people have mailed Warren postcards with their secrets written and often depicted on the back; he keeps them in an ever-growing pile in his house. While a creative impulse may motivate some of those million-plus PostSecret sharers, others just want to create connection.
But Warren points out that sharing secrets anonymously can also be a rehearsal for telling the people you care about.
Truly intimate relationships depend on really seeing another person, which means knowing the deep reaches that not everyone has access to. But never all of them. Featured image: Flickr commons. Jessica Gross is a writer based in New York City.
Jessica has a Master's degree in cultural reporting and criticism from New York University and a Bachelor's in anthropology from Princeton University. TED Talk of the Day. Clara Sousa-Silva The deadly molecule that could al alien life.
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