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Infidelity is any emotional or sexual intimacy that violates trust. Here are five facts that are important for married people to know about infidelity. Affairs happen for many reasons — we commonly hear:. A bond, a sharing of intimacies and emotions; boundaries crossed, secrecy. An affair is born. Think about the amount of time you spend with your spouse vs.

The close interaction, travel, and unavoidable closeness may lead to strong friendships and emotional attachments outside your marriage. The workplace provides opportunity and proximity to people outside your family. Emotional infidelity can be as or more damaging to a marriage than physical infidelity. Innocent flirting and office banter turns into lunch together, texting or ing in off hours. Correspondence enters the personal realm and you begin to share intimate details about your life and relationship with this person.

The more intimate the connection with someone outside your marriage, the deeper the head and heart bond with your spouse becomes compromised. A physical affair may not be far behind. The internet,cell phones and Facebook have made it easier for people to cheat. Curiosity about high school sweethearts, old flames from college and lost loves can be dangerous, especially when there is a drifting or emptiness in your marriage.

Romantic memories, alluring and powerful, can lead you down a path of unexpected consequences. With the click of a mouse and the least harmful of intentions you search for an old love. However this may begin an unanticipated cascade of dreamy feelings and thoughts. For some people an affair is a deal breaker and the betrayed partner cannot fathom continuing the relationship under any Married seeking married Wall.

For some the affair is their ticket out of the marriage; the result of a string of events that is the final breaking point in a marriage. Then there are the couples who are uncertain or want to save their marriages after an affair; they end up in our office. There is hope; some couples do survive and thrive after an affair is revealed.

We strongly believe that with therapy, time, patience and work couples can journey together toward deepening their relationship and building a stronger, closer bond than they had before. All Rights Reserved. Permission to publish granted to GoodTherapy. The preceding article was solely written by the author named above. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by GoodTherapy. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below.

Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. It is easy to say that an affair would be a deal breaker. But I have been there, and even though I always thought that I would leave after something like this happened, it was a different story when it actually happened to me. I loved my husband and even though it broke my heart for this to have happened to our marriage we decided to work through it. I was not meeting his needs and honestly he was not meeting mine either, he just chose to express it in a different way. This was not an easy journey for us but it happened and we navigated through it.

It is possible to make it after this.

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It does not feel like it but it is. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. It IS the betrayed fault to some extend whn they ignore the needs of their spouse. I hate it when people dont take responsibility for their neglect. That is the trap of many low libido spouses. And its wrong and it certainly IS part of them who needs to accept blame. It is never the fault of the spouse who was cheated on. You cannot use those things as an excuse to break someones trust and have an affair behind their back. If you really want someone else and they want you back, then leave the person you are with and just be with the new person.

Mannly and Punxxx, I wanted to address the points you made. Each spouse in the relationship is responsible for the state of the marriage before one partner has an affair.

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And they are each responsible to communicate to the other if they are unhappy or dissatisfied emotionally or sexually. The choice to have an affair and betray a spouse as a way to cope with that unhappiness or emptiness sits squarely on the shoulders of the person who chose to have Married seeking married Wall affair.

When couples come to therapy as a the result of an affair, the betrayal is the first and primary focus for a while. Only after that is worked on can the couple look at the parts they each played in the breakdown of the marriage. Take care, Lori. We talk about the cheating spouse not getting their needs met leading to affairs. Why does everyone think the cheating spouse was this wonderful, terrific, ignored spouse before the affair. Cheating, however, is. Ali, It would be very hard to trust someone who blames you for his affair.

I understand your desire to stay for the. Some of my clients stay for that reason. Others want their kids to see a nurturing and loving relationship and choose to leave in hopes of finding a healthier relationship. What hurts kids the most if you stay is chronic arguing and conflict. You could always go to a relationship counselor to at least discuss your options.

My wife had an affair about 8 years ago — luckily it was short and she only slept with the guy once. We went to counseling, I learned that she was very unhappy and had checked out of the marriage, and was planning to leave. So, basically the affair was my fault. This difference of opinion is difficult to navigate. I feel like her POV is extremely selfish and cold. Blaming a betrayed spouse is wrong but there is grey area.

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Let me explain my situation. My wife is no longer interested in sex of any kind. She simply gets very mad when ever I bring up the subject. I believe we should have come to some form of compromise after a few years of nothing, even after I had initiated multiple conversations about what I need as her husband. She even says she stays in shape for me……for me?? I am seriously thinking of going to either an escort or a massage parlor where I can pick off of a menu.

Am I wrong? I still want and need sex, my wife is absolutely unwilling to help. Am I supposed to just sacrifice sex for the rest of my life? Hi Hank, You are in a difficult situation. Your need for sexual intimacy and connection are not being met in your marriage. When you approach her she gets angry and defensive and ends the discussion.

You say everything else in your relationship is good. It sounds like you still love her and are trying to find a way to stay in the marriage AND get your needs met. You say there has been no infidelity for 30 years, so you are an honorable guy who is at a crossro. Your frustration has led you to a desperate point where you are considering a choice to be dishonest. Doing that will likely put you in a position where you become someone you are not. You may justify it because your wife has shut you down. Yet you will not feel good about Married seeking married Wall, likely bring on feelings of guilt and shame, and you will likely emotionally pull away from your wife.

That scenerio will put your marriage in danger. My suggestion is to ask her to go to a marriage counselor to address this. If she says no, I would let her know that you are going to see a marriage counselor by yourself. This will indicate to her how seriously this is threatening your marriage and may encourage her to attend the sessions. Sexual intimacy is a very important component in a healthy marriage and a vital connection between couples. If you are in Maryland you can contact me, or look for a marriage counselor on the GoodTherapy website. Hope that is helpful. Acknowledging that you have a part in the situation that led the person in your relationship to have an affair is not taking the blame.

It is easy to focus everything on the cheater and what they did, without considering the issues in the relationship that are under the surface. Those things never make the cheating OK, and that is a decision the cheater made.

But if there is ever any hope for people to continue their relationship after an affair, both parties need to their roles in creating an environment where cheating became a possibility. My husband cheated on me right after our 1st Anniversary.

I always said that I would leave a man if he ever cheated on me. I love my husband more than anything, and it was very hard, especially since he cheated on me with someone I thought was my friend, who just so happened to be living in my house. I was heartbroken.

But, I remembered that no one is perfect. So, I pulled myself out of it with his help and my therapist. I am a very strong believer that things happen for a reason, whether they are good or bad. This affair got me out of my funk and made me realize what was happening.

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Now, my marriage is better than it was when we first got married. Thanks to everyone who is sharing their story. Mike, Thanks for your comment. Affairs cause tremendous pain. Being able to share your story and also see that you are not alone feels tremendously supportive and helps to heal. Thanks so much. I wanted to say how much I appreciate that Affairs should be seen as a boundary issue…as well it should.

Seems her father had lied to them for years about an affair, before being discovered and abandoning them all after 5 years of being with this other woman. It was an easy promise for me to make and keep. Oddly, not for her. I have also been told that she is likely on the spectrum of Borderline Personality Disorder.

She had the gall to blame me for her behavior with a married fellow that she was working with. Her behavior was to much for me to comprehend. She is educated, a great grandma now, and moods have mellowed considerably with time, meds, work. I also went back to school and earned an MA.

My questions… I figured out that I likely do not truly know her sexual back ground…seems like a fundamental right for relationships…I was honest, and very limitedbut she was not. We have common interests, I am physically attracted to her still. But I am bother by these aspects still after 20 plus years. Do not believe that it was your fault.

It was not. It was a character flaw within him, not you. Read the pieces on infidelityhelpgroup. They are eye opening.

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